Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Guest Post from Desembarazarme's Mom
A Golden Age of Abortion
(written for support of my Abortioneers*)
Sweet youth, the way things used to be;
I tell my daughter now, because comparatively
She is sliding back into the dark ages.
Threatening the lives of women,
And therefore the lives of mankind,
The voices of lawyers and politicians
Think they are listening,
But they are only listening to the Right.
The repercussions are masked.
They say they are saving the unborn
And what is really happening is
Endangering the lives of the born.
We mothers who have entered the barren bliss
Have probably long forgotten the shared comment by
the girlfriend you knew in college.
The one who, in 1972 said that she’d become pregnant.
The one who mentioned the name of Planned Parenthood ~
A young woman’s haven of solace.
“I just called them and made an appointment.”**
You recall the statement when it’s your turn.
Thirty-eight years later erases the shock and the fears
Which probably overwhelmed your ‘choices’.
It was an easy (I hesitate to add simple) decision to make.
When you’re a twenty year old co-ed
In 1972 there aren’t many choices in your life anyway.
Gentle, supportive boyfriend and friends,
They all sympathize appropriately ~
within the realm of the collective
Mindset of twenty year olds.
Life goes on ~
And sometimes I wonder at
The twist of fate that led me to
Abort when I lacked maturity and resources.
How much drastically different my life would be
If I parented that one . . .
And not the ones who were conceived
And carried to term instead.
I know that if I had had that one,
My choices would have never brought me to
This space and time.
Now I am the mother of a daughter
Whose passion has grown around the
Victims of conception.
These are not the middle-class girls with boyfriends,
The young women who have ultimate resources
Of money and family who will,
Provide a safety net.
The victims of conception are …
Well, listen to the stories of the abortion providers.
Listen to what is RIGHT.
*This is not a story that I needed to tell. I tried my best to convey it for my dearest daughter and her colleagues as a way of communicating this part of history. I am so proud and in awe of all of you.
**I took the historic events blissfully for granted, but the Planned Parenthood that my friend contacted was in Washington, D.C., and she was able to arrange her abortion at a nearby facility. I went to a Planned Parenthood located in New Jersey and was referred to a clinic in NYC. Apparently, in 1972 the states legally performing abortions were evolving. A few years later New Jersey was performing them, too. Both of us were fortunate not to have had to travel far. Regarding the cost … it’s also fuzzy, but it was probably around $250. - $300. A lot for those days, but easily obtained.
Everyone has their versions of their own stories.
Mine seems somewhat jaded.
I am left in awe of wondering
How my life as I know it
Wouldn’t exist if the choice had been made
I wonder at the winds of fate.
What are the statistics of abortions procedures since the legalization of Roe vs. Wade?
Of those tens of thousands (how many more?), I cannot comprehend that any one of those individuals, OR their partners, could consciously be against it now. How many mothers, fathers, grandmothers and grandfathers are among us who now claim to be anti?
How dare they!
They took advantage of the privilege of choice. That choice monumentally changed the course of their lives --- for the better? Because it did not unnecessarily burden them with a responsibility they felt unable to accept at that point in their lives.
How can they take a position against choice now that their life’s journey has led them to a comfortable position because of the choice they once had the privilege to make?
This is not a debate forum -- there are hundreds of other sites for that. This is a safe space for abortion care providers and one that respects the full spectrum of reproductive choices; comments that are not in that spirit will either wind up in the spam filter or languish in the moderation queue.
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I wish my mommy could write an entry. She'd say the same things, I imagine. She would never have been able to be the hero that she was without choice.ReplyDelete
Anti Anti, I bet she's so proud of YOU for honoring her heroics and carrying on her legacy. <3ReplyDelete
This made me cry. Thank you Desembarazarme's mommy. Thank you.ReplyDelete
AA - <3
Comment from Desembaazarme's Mom:ReplyDelete
I was moved to write about my version of “history” because of Daughter of Wand’s mother’s response to DoW’s emotion filled post.
Anti-Anti, I equally appreciate your sharing the knowledge that your mother is (was? Still is!) among us --- those who can offer a token of support from having lived through the more current history of the evolution of Women’s Rights, and who are now so immensely proud of our daughters. <A3